Over the last weeks, we have had some amazing conversations in our house. I want my girls to think. I want them to make decisions. I want them to be strong on a variety of different levels. I want them to choose their role models wisely because I believe strong women can help grow my daughters and challenge them. They are at the age that they need to select them. Hillary Clinton is not a role model for my daughters.
The standard that which our family holds itself to is the Bible. I do not go around speaking Christianese or quoting scripture. It is not my jam. But when my character comes up short, I look to the Bible, not what others are doing or not doing to point me in the direction I need to grow. We do this as a family.
Also, when choosing people to align ourselves with, we need to choose wisely.
Last year, we were having some wonderful “motivational moments” that seemed to consist of selfishness, negativity, and dishonest behavior. When we are out of check, we do not compare ourselves to Hollywood, social media, or friends. We take it to scripture. We let that step on our toes.
As a mom and 2 daughters, we dove into Proverbs 31:10-31. My favorite verse that I recite to the girls as we turn into school on 2 wheels most mornings is “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” I claim it as my life verse.
This passage is about the wife of noble character. I asked the girls to read it and as we read it, we compiled a list of characteristics of this strong woman described in the Bible. This is the list we compiled:
- Practices Discernment
- Physically Strong
- Speaks with kindness
- Positive Attitude
- Put Together
- Sense of Humor
This is the character traits I want my girls to aspire to and when choosing a role model, I want them to use this as a guide. Nobody is perfect. We look at this list and see areas we do well and areas we need to grow. In our house, honesty and trustworthy are at the base of all healthy relationships. Integrity is hard to gain and easy to lose. I want my girls to know what they believe and why they believe it. I want them to hold their ground, but be able to listen to others and be respectful. I want them to choose their friends and allies wisely. The question was asked: Would you choose Hillary Clinton to be in your corner?
The girls responded quite simply. No. She is not a role model at all. She has worked hard but we have to question how she did it. She doesn’t know what she believes. She is not a role model. Just because she is a woman does not give her good character and does not mean we follow her blindly. We can find much better role models.
Nope…we are not with her and we never were.