On the first date with my husband, I laid all of my cards out on the table.
“I am a horrible driver, I have been told that I can’t have children and I do not want to get married. If you want to be friends, that is great, but I am not looking for a relationship.”
We were married over a year later.
I am told I should come with a warning label. And in the era of PC and hurt feelings, this can be considered a warning label for my blog. At my age and with my experiences, this is what I believe.
Six Things You Should Know Before Reading My Blog:
1. I have been broken and have been rebuilt…over and over again.
I am constantly growing and changing. God has a way of putting me back together to make me stronger. This blog will not be the same a year from now nor will I. I am always working on growing small parts of me a little at a time. It works for me and I will share with you how I am doing that.
2. I celebrate growth in everybody’s life and it makes me REALLY excited!!!!
Being a mom and a teacher, I love watching kids and women grow emotionally, academically, spiritually, and physically. It is my jam. And we celebrate growth ALL OF THE TIME!!!!! The messy process of growing is where we live.
3. I do not speak Christianese and I do not blame God for the way Christians behave. (including MYSELF!!)
I have seen many Christians behind closed doors. We are all messes. Some just cover it up better than others. I like to be upfront and honest. And I have been called many a name from friends and family. It is what it is. I love God and I am saved by His grace. I work out my salvation very SLOWLY with wonder and awe as he SLOWLY convicts me to be more like Him.
4. People love me from the bottom of their hearts and people hate me from the depths of their toes.
When you have a strong personality, this is a given. When you know what you believe and why you believe it, this is a given. When you stand up for something, this is going to happen. I also do not give voice to critics. I figure if they are bothered by me then they are probably leaving someone else alone.
5. I have a special place in my heart for middle school and teenage girls.
I have been in middle school 4 times. Yes, you read that right. We actually created a middle school in the Christian school where I was principal. A place for kids 11-14. These can be the worst years ever, but they do not have to be. If we look for the good, put in the work, and lay a foundation, we can really grow kids to come out of this stage better than before. I know that. I have seen it done and it is worth every blood, sweat, and tear….many tears. At our house, it is MENOPAUSE meets ADOLESCENCE…may the odds be forever in our favor….
6. I laugh a lot and I am very, very sarcastic. Fluent sarcasm. The end.
I would love to have you follow this journey. We can learn much from one another. I love hanging out with other women. I love laughing at the situations we find ourselves in and having big pity parties with chocolate, coffee, and wine. I love connecting with real women. Welcome….pull up a seat and let’s paint beauty with what we have been given.